Taking care of your mental, physical and emotional well-being after divorce is important as you start fresh. Focus on what is best for you and don’t worry about what other women are doing. Everyone’s journey will look different.
Fabulous After Divorce
Here are some helpful tips that will get you on the right track to adjusting positively to life after divorce.
1. Find a Workout Partner
Exercise boosts endorphins but everyone has days where the motivation is not there. Having an accountability partner can help tremendously. Ask a friend if you can try out their gym using a guest pass. If you already have a workout routine, look for someone who attends the same class you do at the gym and pair up. You might join a local running, walking, or hiking club that meets at the same time each week or sign up for dance lessons at a local club. The key is to keep showing up and you will naturally develop workout buddies. You will look forward to seeing them while encouraging each other along the way.
2. Refresh Your Closet
Looking stylish will boost your confidence. Invite a friend over and go through your closet together. Remove items that you have not worn in six months or that bring up unpleasant memories. You might follow fashion accounts on social media to see what trendy for your age range is. Consider a subscription service where you can enter your preferences and new items will be sent directly to your mailbox. Try visiting your local boutique and asking for advice. For budget-friendly options, you could shop at a local consignment or thrift store. Don’t be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone. The goal is to pick up some fresh pieces that will make you feel fabulous.
3. Explore New Recipes
Now is a great time to branch out in the kitchen. Incorporating fresh, healthy meals into your current routine will make you feel great. Learning new recipes to add to the mix can be fun and refreshing. You could sign up for a local cooking class that interests you, perhaps you’d like to subscribe to a meal delivery service that exposes you to different foods and invite friends over to cook a new recipe together. You may want to start with recipes that are simple and won’t overwhelm you. You could even stroll through a farmer’s market to learn about what is in season.
4. Take Time for Yourself
You likely spent significant time caring for others during your marriage. Now, you need to set aside time to do things that make you happy and not let yourself feel guilty about it. Think back to your childhood and what delighted you then and give it a try now. Be on the alert for new activities in the community and sign up to join in. Take yourself out to dinner or to see a movie. It’s perfectly acceptable, and often a good idea, to treat yourself.
5. Grow Your Network
This period of your life is a great time to meet new friends. Support groups can help you work through feelings with others experiencing the same situation. In addition, talking to others about life, career, kids, or anything of importance will help you move forward. You could look for clubs specific to your hobbies or branch out to other ones. If you are new to managing finances, find a personal finance or investing group for women. Some groups will be a better fit than others, so expect a little trial and error to find your people. Remember, you are not alone and it is healthy to ask for help.
There is an adjustment period after divorce but taking care of yourself can help you settle into this new chapter. It is also an opportunity to develop healthy habits moving forward. Have grace with yourself and remember you are a fabulous woman.