“Do ya feel lucky, punk?”
Today, I want to share with you about how I have gotten LUCKY on a date. Before your dirty bird mind gets the wrong idea, it is not the kind of “lucky” you might be thinking about. Hopefully, this will inspire you to get out there into the dating world.
It has been almost five months since I have actually went a date. Seriously, this is the longest self imposed break, from dating, I have ever taken. No coffee dates. No awkward singles mixers. No window shopping on Match.com or OKCupid. No longer having to worries about all the games that people play while courting (i.e. will he text me, should I text him, etc). Honestly, it has been a welcomed, much needed and a refreshing break from the wild world of dating.
Even just this morning, my assistant, couldn’t believe that I am STILL on my mancation (man + vacation), exclaiming, “Are you serious?! This is amazing.” Once a former serial dater, now I am learning the value in spending time by yourself. Realizing I kinda love being single.
On the flip side, the longer I am out of the dating scene, the rustier I am feeling interacting with the oppostive sex. Resulting in me being incredibly blunt, having zero filter and no tolerance for donkey dudes. EEK. I need to work on this before I go on another date. Meh. Screw it, I will just be me, quirky, honest and authentically me.
Funny In My Head, Socially Inappropriate To The Rest of Society
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I swear I am not being antisocial, I just rather enjoy my singleness, free of drama and filled with fun. Eventually, I will put my heart out there again. When Mr. Wonderful, decides to appear, hopefully sooner (i.e. in the next few years) than later (i.e. at my nursing home facility in the year 2064), I will be ready and excited to go on another date.
Dating is actually really fun! Had I not put myself out there, on the dating scene, I would have not had some really great experiences and met some really cool men. I also wouldn’t have the best crazy man stories ever. Dating isn’t just about meeting new men or women, it is about shared experiences, trying new things and having a fabulous time or having a terribly time, but being able to laugh about it after the fact.
Many readers of the blog write me, asking me for dating advice, often asking me if they should try online dating for the first time. Although, it is nolonger for me, I think it is a great way to meet new people, extend your network and it a great resource for dating “leads”.
If you get asked out on a date, just say yes and go have a good time. It is just dinner, not getting married. Give people a shot, before you decide whether or not they are right for you. I cannot tell you how many times people have told me, they married someone that was totally NOT their type, but ended up falling in love.
One great example, of my online dating experience, was with an attorney I met on the island. While he did not fit my typical “type”, there was no chemistry and we weren’t a match, I will have to say, I did go on some really great dates with him. Sometimes, I run into him in my building and say a friendly hello.
Last summer, Mr. JAG, decided to take me on a hiking adventure, along the coast of the Windward side of the island of Oahu. Remember the movie, From Here to Eternity, well, we hiked to the beach, where one of the most famous romantic movie scenes was filmed.
We Did NOT Recreate This Scene
Although, we didn’t share a connection, I must say, he planned a really great date, hiking in the most beautiful scenery and favorite part of the island. After living on this island for almost ten years, I had no idea, there was a lava tube, that took you down to the waters edge. Activity dates are the absolute best. Coffee dates are so B-O-R-I-N-G, give me a date, where I can breathe fresh air and get my adrenalin pumping.
I am so happy that I decided to go on this adventure date, because just look at these amazing shots of the landscape and the powerful waves. Turns out, my date was an avid hiker, knowing all the secret paths and best views of the island.
I had so much fun, timing the waves, climbing the lava rocks and enjoying the adventure. Always be open to new experiences. However, always keep safety in mind, when you are going on a date, with a new person. If I do recall, this might have been our fourth date, so I felt comfortable going on a hike.
NEVER, EVER, EVER, EVER go on a hike with a stranger. You do not want to end up on a missing persons report or be lost in the middle of nowhere with a date rapist. Sadly, I have met men, who will try to physically push your limits, be smart and vigilent with your safety.
Have fun, but don’t be a dummy. Let people know where you are at and whom you are with. I ALWAYS, send a girlfriend the details of my date: WHO, WHAT and WHERE. WHO I am going with, including name, number and photograph, WHAT we are doing and WHERE we are going.
One Day I Will Be Kissed Here!
Hiking the coastine was totally fun, but then my experienced hiker said we should climb this CRAZY ASS arch, near Koko Head. Don’t get me wrong, I love hiking, but I am not looking to die on a date. From a distance, it didn’t look that difficult. However, when are at the bottom of the arch, you have a straight vertical climb. I felt like Spider Man trying to scale this wall, but with huge drops on both sides.
Listen, I am all for adventure, but I watch the news and there are hikers always falling off cliffs to their death. EFF. That. Noise. After giving it my best college try, I got stuck on the rock, about to cry. I had never been that scared. I am not a Patagonia advertisement and I was not going to risk my life, to look like the cool hiker chick. I told my date, we needed to turn around. My gut told me to get off that stupid rock immediately.
EFF This Noise..I Ain’t Climbing That
Momentarily, I felt bad, for letting my date down, but then we ran into the hot hikers from Iowa. Nevermind, I was happy I made the decision to turn around and head the other way. Always follow your instincts. Mine led me to not falling off a mountain, like Wile E. Coyote, hot hikers AAAAAAAAAANNNNNNNNNNDDDDDDDDD….
HOT Hikers… No Seriously It Was Hot Outside
AAAAAAAAANNNNNNNNNNDDDDDDDD… on our way back to the car, I spotted this out of the corner of my eye in the bushes. I found a $100 bill on the ground, on the side of the highway. I felt like Data from the Goonies when he found the fifty dollar bills. I am pretty sure I was even quoted him that very moment. I am even more sure my date was too young to know who the Goonies were and who I was quoting.
“Fity dolla bill, look guys, we no move!” Sigh. I love the Goonies. I could relate everything in life to that movie.
Want to hear something even cooler, the day before, I was praying for exactly $100 to help out with some extra bills. Thank you Jesus for answering my prayers. Who finds a $100 sitting on the side of the road???
I have never been so LUCKY on a date. You will never know what is in store for you if you don’t get out there. Maybe you will meet the love of your life, maybe you might find a new hot spot or maybe you just may have a great night out.
Look What I Found!
After our adventurous date, I decided to treat us to beers and pupus, at one of my favorite breweries on the island. Girls, don’t forget to offer to pay for some of your dates. It is only polite and many men will appreciate your consideration. He ain’t a sugar daddy and you are a modern woman.
Overall, I feel really fortunate to be able to go on many fun dates and share my experiences with all of you on the blog. Go out there, take chances and you too might get LUCKY!
Beers On Me
What was one of your most memorable dates?
Do you go on activity dates? What do you do?