Before online dating – you might have met enough jerks, insensitive men, and men that only communicate by wanting sex after meeting you for the first time, now after online dating – it still hasn’t change. Maybe they’re not enough men that are not supportive or you don’t share a common interest with when you go online. Your brain is fried from all of the mind numbing, tolerable, and very insufferable dates to a point of giving up on dating.
The frustrations on dating is not being able to find the right person, and for someone that used to go to the club and got burned on the dance floor of men not returning the opportunity of getting to know a person can be frustrating. Some women can meet and have the happily ever after online, but what about if you’re a decent looking woman that is experienced – then what? You are stuck with all of the rejects that want a booty call in favor of something else. I don’t advocate online dating – but if it works for some women, why not?
First of all as women coming out of a bad relationship and going into an online dating situation; you need to know what you want in a new relationship. What are your character traits you need within the opposite sex? List your deal breakers within yourself. What is your turn-on and turn-offs? Have a glass of wine and figure these first set of questions out, and see where it goes…
After you have drunk your glass of wine while listening to some jazz (my preference), then you need to assess what strengths and qualities you bring to the table, your turn-on and turn-off’s, and what is your ideal mate? Create the visualization of that person, and if he looks like Idris Elba, Duane ‘The Rock’ Johnson, and Vin Diesel (again my preferences) then you’re halfway there.
Dating in this century is increasingly depressing, we’re at the mercy of the computers versus the way you used to meet someone. Maybe it used to be at a function, but now it’s all about online internet dating. For some single women, they have found their man, but for others that are still on the shelf looking for their ideal mate – it becomes a problem. Are women extending their own shelf life by going online to find their mates, or are women becoming old school and let the mates come to them. It’s not surprising that internet dating is used to speed up the process, but trying to spend time getting to know a complete stranger based on an online profile does not a great time make.
Online dating is a greed, it’s about going to a buffet of food waiting to be chosen or disregarded. It is also convenient where you can meet people online in the comfort of your fuzzy slippers at home on the computer, tablets, or smartphones for instant gratification and not give the relationship a chance to develop. It is a new world of choice, and we have become aware there could be our ideal mate with just a click away – after you have paid your membership fees to get all you can of finding your ‘Mr. Right’.
Is online dating worth the hassle or disappointment? No, it can be a confusing and frustrating experience. Some women say there is good news to meet your perfect mate online and through social media, you just have to attract the kind of mate you are looking for. It’s within your power to turn a miserable dating experience into something positive if you are willing to be spontaneous.