If You Can be any Kind of Mom…Be a Happy One

 

We feel so much pressure in society today to be the very best moms.  We must be at the top of our game in every area of our lives. That can be so difficult when you are a single parent.  Life is hard enough when there are two parents in the picture. It becomes even more stressful when you are the sole parent responsible for your child’s well-being.

If You Can be any Kind of Mom…Be a Happy One

I totally understand because I, too, have endured the hardship of single motherhood. The one lesson that I have learned is that your happiness and emotional balance is key.  Kids don’t care how much money you have or what kind of car you drive.  What kids care about is the quality time that you spend with them.  The happier you are, the better that quality time will be.

Single mom life started for me about 17 years ago. I got divorced when my children were only a year old.  My first marriage ended because it was extremely toxic, and my ex was emotionally abusive.  I knew that I couldn’t stay in that relationship and be happy, so I took my one-year-old twins and left.  I ended up going back to school and getting my teaching degree.  I was working full time and going to school part-time.

I know what it’s like to struggle.

For most of my life, I have had to struggle with the whole concept of single motherhood. What I have learned throughout my journey is that the one thing your kids want from you is your own happiness.  We are modeling love for our kids, and that includes the love of self.  When you make self-care a priority in your life, you are showing your kids that it is important to be good to yourself.

You can’t enjoy the time spent with your kids if you are constantly stressed out. Your children need you to be happy and that means you need to practice self-care.  Self-care isn’t selfish. It’s the most essential thing you can do to stay healthy and to be the best mom for your kids. I missed out on a lot of happy moments with my kids because I worried about things that didn’t really matter in the long run.  That’s why I wrote my book, “Beautifully Broken.” I wanted to help women avoid the mistakes I made. I also wanted to show women that there is hope after a divorce.

In fact, what if I told you that you can survive divorce and be even better than you were before. In my book, I give practical parenting advice on how to keep your sanity during those tough days. Whether it’s creating rules, dating again, or maintaining balance in your life, I share my story of how I made it through.

I also give you useful tools to help you heal from the pain of divorce. With sage advice, tools, tips, and prayers, I pave the way for women to step into their power. To see that though they may feel broken, they are not. With laughter and love, I show you that our scars do not define us. We do.

You deserve to be a happy mom.

When you start taking care of yourself, you are better equipped to handle parenting, in fact, you will handle it like the boss that I know you are.  Don’t sweat the small stuff. Life usually has a way of working those things out. Focus on quality time with your kids and learn to enjoy those moments.  They go by so fast. Keep the faith. I know you will be great!