Society stereotypes men as natural hunters, whether out in nature and in the realm of dating, categorizing women as their inevitable prey. Women are “gatekeepers” with no need to initiate a conversation or, God forbid, a first date. We’re simply meant to sit around in our castles, brushing our hair and twiddling our thumbs, until Prince Charming decides to rescue us at last.
Well, I’m sorry ladies, but I’m just not willing to wait that long.
Should women approach men online? ABSOLUTELY. In fact, women should approach men off line, as well. Why the hell not? And no, being divorced is not a good reason to tap out of the game.
Whether single or divorced, there is something novel, and also important, about a woman reaching out to a man she’s interested in. It puts us back into control, and back in the hunt. Sure, we run the risk of rejection but even a small failure is better than the waiting game, sometimes.
Approaching someone can be much less scary online than in person. Likewise, the possibility of rejection is a lot less harsh online. Doing so is a great way to practice taking the reins, and boosting your self-esteem.
I have learned that most men only approach women who appear interested in them. But, let’s face it; most men have horrible radar for that. I, for one, have spent countless nights in bars kindly declining offers of free drinks and dinner dates from men who are clearly not my type. Meanwhile, the only seemingly “cool” guy in the room is too cool to spark up a conversation with me.
So, how do we solve this problem? Well, ladies, we use our finely tuned social skills to spark up the conversation ourselves.
10 Reasons Why Women Approach Men Online
1. It shows that you’re independent.
And let’s be honest, independent women are sexy. Men like women who take control. And why is that? They don’t expect it.
2. The “right” guy might not approach you first.
You don’t want to let a good opportunity pass you by just because society says women should wait to be approached.
3. It helps you practice your game.
Even if he’s not a total keeper, it’s good to rehearse introducing yourself, especially in an online setting. There is a fine line between sounding interesting and seeming desperate, and the only way to perfect it is through trial and error.
4. It emphasizes your confidence
And confidence is the key to attracting a man you’re interested in.
5. It defies the stereotypes.
Let’s step out of the box, people.
6. If you have the social skills, why not use them?
Women are known for their ability to analyze (maybe even overanalyze) and talk about virtually anything. Perhaps this is why tips and tricks to master the art of interacting online are more often geared towards men. Perhaps women don’t actually need pointers on how to use their power on the Internet. We just have to start using it!
7. Give the guy a break.
Although I’ve never been a male myself, I can imagine that being a single man is not easy, especially when compared to a slew of other single men on dating sites. Not having to do all the work for once might come as a great relief.
8. Men want to feel desired too.
Approaching a man will make him feel the same boost of confidence you feel whenever you’re approached. Who doesn’t like a little attention?
9. You’re more likely to get the love life you choose.
Not the one that chooses you.
10. We are all human.
It doesn’t matter whether you’re a man or a woman, we all have the ability to socialize and swoon the person we’re interested in. We all share the same needs, and the same means to achieving those needs. It’s about time that women get into the game. So go on. This article is over; it’s time to message him!