“It should be illegal to call someone fat on television.”
– Jennifer Lawrence
I am still on my CrossFit Open high, so forgive my long speech ahead. Usually, I only keep long thoughts like this on the blog, but I believe this message can be shared with so many wonderful women out there.
One of the GREATEST parts of CrossFitting is the women I see each time I go to the box. Everyone of us is a different shape, size, ethnicity, age, color and have various athletic abilities. It is breathtaking and beautiful!
I have discovered BEAUTY in STRENGTH. Every single of those women and YOU lady friends are PHENOMENAL beautiful creatures. Each strong, loving, smart, unique and sexy.
It took CrossFit to find my beauty again, for that I am forever grateful. I have learned to love my legs! I am thrilled I can squat my 6 year old boy and make him giggle. I love the flush in my cheeks after a great workout! I love the confidence that I have gained.
CrossFit has brought more “color” into my life than any lipstick or blush.
Confession, I didn’t always love my body. I hated it because it wasn’t free of stretch marks or wasn’t as lean in my 20s. I didn’t look like a Playboy bunny or a Victoria Secret model, so I guess I didn’t meet the standard of beauty in my head. Sadly, that is what lack of self love and body brainwashing will do for you.
In the wise words of my wonderful and wise friend Tracey, “F*&k that noise!” Turn that voice off in your head.
Who wants to live a life of self loathing and calorie counting. Now, I eat as much food as I want, as long as it is healthy! Plus, I have fun when I exercise. As a busy single mom, CrossFit has been a life and sanity saver.
Today, I came across something on the internet that broke my heart. Seeing my own sisters (women) fat shaming. There is zero excuse to make fun of another woman’s body. It is ugliness and not how we should treat each other as human beings. It isn’t God’s love, it was just plain disappointing and disheartening.
Let’s stop this Mean Girls mentality. I am done seeing this on television, in magazines and on Facebook. I am wagering I am not the only person who shares the same sentiment.
Mean Girls
We are more than a number on a scale, a pants size or an unrealistic expectation, set by society’s glossy magazines or digitally retouched Hollywood movies.
We are human beings with feelings. Let’s show compassion, unconditional love and support.
Again, another reason why I love CrossFit, I have a wonderful support system. No one has ever put me down there, always open to showing me how to master moves and THIS is why I keep going back.
I am not a typical CrossFit athlete, but that will not stop me from reaching my goals to be the best version of Cicily.
You know what makes me sad, watching women bash other women on their bodies. Society has already done enough damage on that front.
We should all strive to eat healthy and maintain active lifestyles. I am not suggesting, one should disregard their health. We should all want to live long lives, not only for ourselves, but for our children.
Maybe some of us need that extra support and push, but we should try to remember speaking with kindness versus judgement.
You catch more flies with honey than vinegar, is what I always tell my students.
My body has seen size 00 to 10, carried a healthy baby boy, ran hundreds of miles and recently lifting heavy weights. It is amazing what our bodies are capable of doing.
So, let’s stop calling ourselves “fat” or calling other women “fat”. Instead, let’s replace it with the word “beautiful” instead.
“Wow, she is beautiful.”
“I am beautiful.”
“We are beautiful.”
Doesn’t that sound “sweeter”?
If you agree with me, please share on your Facebook and comment below. Let’s promote more loving words in the world and erase negativity.
Love,
Sweet Cicily
Grant and Kristy are at the height of the age of ” mean kid” syndrome. I tell them to let this behavior in others roll off their backs. They will come across mean people their entire lives. I tell them something in this persons life made them SO INSECURE that they have to make themselves feel better by putting someone else down. That this person feels they need to belittle others in order to elelvate themselves (often this is a sign of narcissistic behavior). I tell my children this type of person will never be a true friend, and the opinions of such an insecure person, while they may sting at that moment, really do not matter. This is a form of bullying that will be forever present in our lives and we should never give this person the power to make us feel bad. We have a choice how we let others make us feel.
@Bella’sChronicles … You are on point. I absolutely agree 100% with you on this. I saw this behavior on my Facebook newsfeed and was stunned grown women still do this.
I was horrified to see a fitness trainer publicly humiliate a woman, by posting her belly dancing picture and completely tear her body apart. I was in shock and surprised, as she had once dealt with weight challenges herself.
You are correct. This is a form of bullying and stems from something inside. Really unfortunate and a great reminder on acceptance, love and reframing how we view beauty.
Great you teach your children about this early on!!! It is always wise to let it slide like water off a duck’s back. Thank you for sharing and posting!