Love at first site; it’s believable because the very reason we love and the very result of love is growth and change. Love at first sight is the beginning, most rationally explained. It’s purity and organic roots allow the perfect breeding ground for such growth and change…in my opinion.
The term or length of this phenomenon is what varies and causes so much heartache.
Think about the purpose of those displays in front of stores. The ones the completely non-proportioned model bodies go into with the latest fashion trends on them. Have you ever walked past one, laid your eyes upon something within the case, stopped dead in your tracks and unquestionably knew that you had to have it? That it was meant to be yours? Of course you have. This happens to the best of us. Sometimes it is at the 7-11 hot dog station. Sometimes it is at the truffle counter of Godiva. Or Victoria’s Secret. Whatever is on the model wearing the wings was meant for me. It’s fate.
Sometimes the blissful romance of it lasts for the 30 seconds it takes you to inhale that hot dog, 20 seconds on the truffle or maybe 10 years on a really nice piece of lingerie.
Love at first sight as it relates to human relationships (not just those you have with your food or other inanimate objects) is just as simply explained. It is a beautiful phenomenon and so valid, if only we let it be. LET IT BE. Kinda like Let It Go… only not. You can stop singing now.
You see it in the movies… the way that time and sound stop, the world seems to pause while two strangers become lovers through sight. Maybe you’ve felt it before yourself, but immediately jumped into judging the experience and doubting it. After all, a lot of those movies don’t end well for that love connection…
Maybe you were sitting at the other side of the bar when he shows up out of nowhere and tells you he is buying you a drink. And the moment you looked into his eyes you knew you were in trouble. Those perfect eyes… suddenly so sure of everything and nothing all at once. Like gazing upon the majestic Griswold Family Christmas Tree!
How about locking eyes with a complete stranger and suddenly feeling your space become their space and dropping all the walls you normally put up when you leave the house? Maybe you made it a long night, unable to walk away or break the spell?
Or what about that time you were proposed to four times in one night by that guy that you just met sweating your asses off on the dance floor? Pretty sure he is a believer, too. I mean, anyone who wants your sweaty ass hand in marriage at one hour in clearly sees this as Love.
The First Sight phenomenon is the one that leaves you breathless sometimes for days after, unable to think (about anything but this Love), dizzy and head spinning on a magical mystery ride (but you’ll be all right). The energy is so wild in your veins that it cannot be denied. Its existence is as real as the body it rages through. How can this be true? How can you Love so much, so quickly, with so little?
Love just is. That’s how it works. It shows up. It connects. And then it is up to us, what happens to it from there. It’s like a beautiful ball of fire was dropped in our laps and then we have to quickly and expertly learn how to care for it to keep it from burning out. Or burning us.
In reality we tend to project all kinds of expectations onto this fireball and try to control it. Most of us fail, epically, and conclude that it was never Love to begin with. “That wasn’t Love, or it would not have burned me!”
I call bullshit. One of two things happens after the Sight Bite:
1. Love shows up and sometimes we aren’t accepting of it just as it is. The rapid decline starts thereafter. There is an imperfection. We want more. We want less. We don’t know what we want anymore. Must be time to kill it.
2. We aren’t open to it and it never catches fire. Feeling like this never happens to you? Then you are cutting yourself off, more than likely. If your heart is truly open and you are out there loving every day and sharing your light with the world, it is impossible to avoid these connections.
The most beautifully true part about love at first sight is that it can happen at any second. Any minute in your life can change the course forever. That is especially good news for the Divorced Mom who may be experiencing doubts and anxiety over sharing love with another person again. Ever in life.
Don’t be afraid to be someone’s tree, get on the dance floor or make it a long night. Open your Love eyes and prepare to find yourself in the thralls of this phenomenon. Trust me on this one. If you are open to it, it will strike you. You will like it. Even if it doesn’t last forever, the fire it lights inside is worth the burn. Nothing in life worth having is easy anyways.