It’s easy to be burdened by the pressure of being a single mom. However, feeling good about yourself is actually super productive and beneficial for your family life. Your little ones deserve a confident mother. They deserve a mother who knows how to be a role model to your children.
Times have changed, the contemporary “good mother” is a woman who knows how to organize her daily life, the education of her children, her professional life all while knowing how to take care of herself and setting the right example for her kids. Your kids idolize you and your positive attitude will give them a life lesson or two.
Below are a few habits you can develop to help you be a role model to your children.
Taking Care of Yourself and Your Health
Set an example of “health is wealth” for your child by taking care of yourself first. Engage in physical activity and tag your little one along. Eat healthily and indulge your child in healthy eating habits as well.
Do little things, like brushing your teeth twice daily along with your children. Visit a dentist regularly and take them along so they understand the importance of oral health.
Spend time on personal grooming… hair care and skin care. Your child picks up on these cues and learns that pride in appearance is important. It’s only going to help them be well-groomed people.
Enjoy Your Social Life
No, it is not selfish to have a social life. Go out with friends, watch movies or network with like-minded people. Invite friends over, let kids have a play date while you enjoy high tea with your friends. You can make babysitting arrangements with friends or hire a babysitter when you are stepping out. It’s important for your children to witness you enjoying life instead of getting bogged down in the stress of single parenting.
You’ll be teaching them that no matter how overwhelmed they may be feeling, it’s important to take time to have fun in order to find balance in life.
Find Role Models
There are many single moms out there who are managing their lives just as you are. Be a part of single parent’s groups online and offline, and find a role model to pep you up each time you feel down. Single parenting can be exhausting at times and having inspirational people in your life you can look up to will keep you going and positive.
What better lesson can you model for your children than the importance of vulnerability and reaching out to others for help?
Even if your world is crumbling, you will need to be strong and this is exactly why you must work on yourself and engage in things that help you feel hopeful. Disapproving family members and gossiping colleagues are going to make you uncomfortable. But you need to get your act together and stay confident.
Your kids may be affected by such gossip too at school or otherwise. But if you face the situation with your head held high, your kids will learn the same. Let your kids know that divorce is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of.
If you wallow in your circumstances, you’ll teach your children to do the same when they face adversity. If you are a fitness freak, your child will learn the importance of maintaining their physical health. And if you live your life with confidence and positivity, your child is going to grow up as an individual with high self-esteem and armored to face the world.