“Why wasn’t I enough?”
These are the words that make me cringe. They make me grit my teeth. They break my heart. I have yet to hear these words from a woman who deserved to say them. These are the words of a woman scorned by her man who decided another woman (or path, whatever) was the way to the future.
Let me say this to you loud and clear…
Him Leaving Was NEVER ABOUT YOU Not BEING ENOUGH!!!
Yes, it more than sucks that the man you call “husband” would consider anyone or anything else over you but honestly, if you think about it, do YOU really want to be with someone that is thinking about someone else? Do YOU really want to waste your time with someone who isn’t happy being with you? Do YOU really want someone to fake a life with you?
Yeah, I know. It’s marriage and it is supposed to be forever because that was the agreement. You made a commitment. You devoted your life. You made the promise. Therefore he was supposed to do the same. And yet, he didn’t.
Why? Why didn’t he?
I know there are so many of you that are wondering why the man of your dreams, your husband, your life partner, the father of your children left you behind.
So, the suck-y thing about his decision is you may never know the real “why”.
What sucks more? He probably can’t tell you because, in the end, he doesn’t know.
Eff that, right? I know. He should know, right? You are due an explanation. You are owed the reason behind his actions. It is only fair that you be given an explanation!
Is it, ladies? Is it? Is life that fair and right and justified that we all know why we do what we do when we do it? I would be lying if I could give you a reason for everything I have ever done AFTER I did it. Sometimes, things seemed like a good idea at the time and then hindsight kicks in and I am bustling to kick my own arse for being stupid or I am wondering what the hell I was thinking.
Quite honestly, you have to get over being left!
If you are still pining after a relationship that someone else flushed down the toilet you might consider the contents of the toilet. Maybe what you had in the relationship was worth spending eternity in. Maybe you value commitment over happiness. Maybe there is a lot going on in that toilet that you didn’t see. And then again, maybe it wasn’t a wasted flush. Bottom line, someone didn’t want you – why in the hell do you want him???
Moreover, why even ask about being enough? You are not designed to be “enough” for another. You are not structured to be the filling putty for another human being. You are a person. You are an individual. You are YOU. Consider yourself as something more than someone’s “better half”!!! You are NOT a better half or a worse half! You are a full wonderful, beautiful, incredible you.
I don’t even know you and I believe that about you!
So, do you and me a favor? Don’t limit yourself as “enough”. You are not just “enough”. You are more, so much more than a better or worse half. You are better than the “ole ball and chain”. You are more than just a wife. You are an individual – a special creation that no one else in the world could possibly be! Maybe he didn’t see it and that is just fine! The right one will. The guy that wants you to be you will. The guy that believes you doing you is the best thing about you is the right one.
The one that walks out on you has issues…just saying.
Do not, by any means, define your life as an extension of another, ever. You are not an extension to a guy – you are a compliment to him as much as he is a compliment to you! You two are not “one” – you two are a powerhouse! Be proud of you and only allow a man into your life that is just as proud because if he isn’t you end up asking yourself…”Why wasn’t I enough?”
And then you might just tear yourself apart unnecessarily.
Get your ass into gear, be you and take nothing less from a man that doesn’t strive for you to be you. It’s not about being enough – it’s about being you.
FAQs about Husbands Who Run Away:
How do I make my husband stay?
You may end up hurting yourself more by trying to make your husband stay if he has already planned to be with someone else. If you find yourself perturbed over his behavior, you should put yourself at ease by opting for therapy. Now the real question you should ask yourself: do you really want to make a man stay who puts someone above you?
Did he leave because I wasn’t enough for him?
Before asking yourself whether or not he left you because you weren’t enough, you should understand that a relationship requires both the partners to put in equal efforts to keep it going. As an individual, you are not designed to prove yourself enough for another.
Why did my husband leave me?
Why did your husband leave you should not be your focus at a time when you need to live in the present and endeavor for a better future. Should you care about the person who left you without assigning a reason?
Why do I feel incomplete without him?
If you continue to define yourself by the relationship you once had, you will continue to feel incomplete without him. Stop feeling like you are an extension to someone who left you without any regard to your feelings. Wake up to the new reality and look up to the possibilities the future holds for you.