Bitch, please. I got this.
No. Really. As resourceful and resilient singledom has allowed me to become, as I turn the corner on four years without a ring on it, I know this for certain. Men are important. Never fool yourself into thinking you can live without them. If my social circle only consisted of women, I might hang myself with a pair of Spanx and, just to make sure I ended, puncture my liver with a McQueen heel. Life needs testosterone.
With that in mind, I’d like to present you with the 5 men that every divorced mom needs in her life.
And I would know…I’m as single as a dollar bill.
1. The Handyman.
No shit. The Handyman is Numero Uno in your life. You don’t have to sleep with him and he’ll change your air conditioner filters. Seriously, how awesome does it feel not to have to negotiate sex to get something done around the house?!? Finding the perfect Handyman is more important than finding a boyfriend. I am non-sexually in love with my current Handyman. I hit the Tool Time jackpot with this one. He hangs chandeliers without asking me to swing from them, digs post without asking to “post” me, and lays carpet without…well, you get the picture. I would give you his number, but, fuck that! I’m keeping him to myself.
2. The Hot Neighbor.
Everyone needs that equally single guy neighbor that can come running should you have an emergency. He’s like the backup quarterback. You don’t plan on using him, but he’s nice to keep around. His hotness level is irrelevant, but since mine happens to be hot, really hot, I figured I’d take this moment to brag about it. (Unfortunately, he has an equally attractive girlfriend, which makes my walking my dogs back & forth in front of his house, hoping he’ll walk out for a conversation, slightly psychotic.) The single neighbor is the guy you call if something seems awry in your house at midnight, or if your car won’t start.
3. The Ex.
You don’t like to admit it. I don’t like to admit it, but the ex-knows us pretty damn well. So much so, that when you get crazy because the guy you went out with on Monday hasn’t called and it’s Wednesday, you can call the ex and he talks you down. Because he knows your crazy….he’s experienced it first hand. Always keep an Ex on deck for moments of insanity. Of course, this one is totally up to you. If he left you high and dry and you want nothing to do with him, that’s understandable.
4. Friend With Benefits.
No explanation needed but, in case you do, here is an article for you. A woman has needs.
5. Secret Crush.
It’s not really a secret that I have a crush on the produce guy at my grocery store. It’s not like I stalk him (I don’t even regularly BUY groceries!) or know his schedule or anything creepy like that, but on that rare occasion when I see him, terrible thoughts enter my head that involves knocking down entire displays of apples.
I know. I’m a bad grocery girl. But quite honestly, everyone needs a secret crush…and not just single ladies. An SC lets you know you are still alive. That no matter how routine and humdrum your life may seem, you still have that spark of frisky.
So if you’re single like me, you keep these five in your bullpen until the ONE comes along to make them all obsolete.
Yes! A good handyman is hard to find! So is an honest plumber, auto repair shop, and any other contractor, when you are a single woman. I don’t need a hot neighbor, I have a much older gentleman next door, and we take turns bringing up our garbage cans after the truck leaves. Once he helped me with a fence panel that came loose. I was so thankful, I gave him a Dairy Queen gift card as a thank you.Him and his wife were very thankful. I certainly do not my need ex around! Not only would it break the Order of Protection against him, but he has done enough damage! Friend with benefit? Kinda sleazy, especially when you have full custody of your kids, and mine are now teenagers/young adult,and still live with me. So what kind of message am I sending them? I don’t need to make my life any more complicated, finding random men to litter my life, trying to get a divorce finalized is enough for me…..
What a snarky comment from Elaine. I found this to be a lighter-hearted article in the darkness of divorce and frankly i could use one of each of the fellas. Negative people suck.
Anger gets in the way of some people having a sense of humor. Be glad you’re not burdened with that issue. It was a tongue-in-cheek article and, like you, I could use one of each too.
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#1 was the best for me when I first separated. I needed work done around the house, in the back yard and in the bedroom—hehe. Great post!
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