It’s really unfortunate that Girl Scout cookie season is over and I’m out of Thin Mints. Yesterday I received word that my ex-husband is planning to take me to court AGAIN, just one month after our last custody hearing. This time he wants to modify custody for our daughter, presumably in order to lower child support.
I wish I believed that Prince actually wanted more time with Franny. But until this weekend, he could never be bothered to take her for a full weekend, despite my open offer to take her every other Friday night. I imagine his lawyer advised him that he didn’t have a good case for increasing his timeshare — and lowering child support — if he continued to refuse some of the time he’d been offered.
He’s only asking for a 12.5% increase in time — from 62.5% to 50/50 — and part of me is tempted to give it to him. The courts really favor fathers’ rights now, and I’ve heard from women whose deadbeat exes were given an equal split when they went to court to get it, despite years of dodgy involvement.
But I know he will interpret settling as a sign of weakness, which will then spur him on to take more, and more, and more. Ragingly narcissistic exes don’t respect you if you don’t fight back. Litigation is the only language they understand, and financial implications are the only thing that scares them. As rich as Prince is, he loathes spending money, and since his parents are footing the bill for his gold-plated life, they’re not going to be keen on funding a protracted court battle.
I would like to think that the judge will not look kindly upon Prince’s new petition, since it comes so soon after the last hearing. I would like to think she would ask him WHY he wants to reverse the order when he agreed to keep it status quo just one month before. I would REALLY like to think she will not be pleased to learn that he has already been late with child support, and that he gave Luca a typed letter detailing how I would be able to keep him in a grand lifestyle with the modest sum I’m being given.
Given, that is, when he can locate his checkbook. Apparently it didn’t make its way into his suitcase when he went on vacation last week.
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My heart skipped only a few beats when I read the e-mail that Prince was filing a motion to modify custody. There was absolutely no point in freaking out, because I need all the level-headedness I can get. What I’ve learned from eleven years of being a narcissist’s target is to focus on what I can control. So I e-mailed ten friends and told them to save the date for my birthday dinner next month. I can think of no better way to ignore Prince than to be surrounded by friends, and a few stiff drinks.
After I fired off the e-mail to my friends, I read the online news about American photojournalist James Wright Foley, who was beheaded by Islamic militants. I cannot fathom the horror of being marched to a death that gruesome. I cannot fathom the horror of his family members as they learn about their son’s final moments.
I can’t fathom being a black male in Ferguson, Missouri, waking each day to the reality that the people who are supposed to protect you are much more likely to gun you down. I can’t fathom being a black person in this country, carrying around the thought every minute of every day, that justice is something that only happens to white folks.
Especially rich white folks. Which brings me back to Prince.
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At 52, this man is still supported by his parents and his wealthy wife. He jets around, and plays golf, and throws dinner parties, and watches sporting events in boxed seats. And in his spare time he finds new and more dastardly ways to torture his ex-wife — and his children.
After a decade of watching Prince revel in his hedonism and his machiavellianism, I still can’t wrap my mind around the fact that he feels NO obligation to do something meaningful with the stupefying amount of opportunities and resources he’s been given. That he has NO interest in using his privilege to help bring up others less fortunate, but actually gets off on grinding them down.
The worst part isn’t that he thinks he’s entitled to act like a spoiled brat the rest of his life. Or that his family and wife collude with his nonsense. The worst part is that there are no consequences for him, and people like him, EVER.
On days like today, I don’t know how to metabolize this level of injustice, that the wrong people get rewarded, and innocent people get their lives cut short. Reading and writing has saved me from going off the deep end the past ten years, and it helps when I can’t seem to make any decent meaning out of life.
I came across an interview Bill Moyers did with Maya Angelou, about courage and facing evil. She talked about refusing to speak for five years after her rape when she was a child, and how she used that silent half-decade to read everything she could get her hands on. It was this experience that taught her how to think and ultimately, to triumph.
“Out of this evil, which was a dire kind of evil, because rape on the body of a young person more often than not introduces cynicism, and there is nothing quite so tragic as a young cynic, because it means the person has gone from knowing nothing to believing nothing. In my case I was saved in that muteness… And I was able to draw from human thought, human disappointments and triumphs, enough to triumph myself.” – Maya Angelou
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My hellish divorce is not the worst thing that’s ever happened. Not by a long shot. I can keep a roof over my kids’ heads, food in the refrigerator, and cell phone service turned on. In a month I’ll be celebrating my birthday with friends who have had my back — some for over 30 years.
And in the meantime, one lovely Facebook friend is sending homemade Thin Mints.
Oh dear Pauline…hopefully you have the same lawyer lined up as last time. I’m sure given all the things going on that it will work out. Hugs!!
Thanks, Liv. Sigh. It’s just such a waste of energy and I was just catching my breath.
Beautiful. As someone familiar with family law, they won’t look kindly on a de novo complaint so quickly after the recent order. I have gone through the identical battle and I’m ready to fight again if I have to. And yay for those, like us, who defy the odds and stand up! I love your line: I am unable to metabolize this level of injustice – or something like that. Join the party, sister. It’s unfathomable. Don’t try to understand the mind of a narcissist. As shallow as a walnut and as selfish as — as selfish as Louis the Sun King.
Thanks, Liv. Sigh. It’s just such a waste of energy and I was just catching my breath.
Pauline, so good to see a post from you, was wondering what chaos Prince had infliccted on your life. Please don’t back down on modifying Franny’s timeshare. I share your concern that the courts are now leaning over backwards to give time to disinterested fathers (and certainly his conduct shows lack of interest), but I do hope you get a reasonable judge who can see the true motivation for his conduct. He’s a truly crappy person. You are not. Your kids love & respect you for your integrity & honesty. I am sure that all your supporters are praying for a fair & just outcome for you. All the best to you.
Thanks, M!
Hi Pauline, It sounds like a horrible situation. Would you be willing to try SplitZen.com and see if he pays more in child support? I’m sure, from the description in your post, that he probably won’t respond. However, please give it a try. I created the service to empower custodians in your situation. I’m also writing this to ask XdeRubicon to do the same. As a custodial parent who is male, he provides a helpful perspective in the same role but with a different gender. Ms. Gaines and Xde, please register and try it and offer feedback. So far we’re seeing more than an 80% positive response rate from non-custodial parents. I still need the help improving SplitZen.com. If you friend me on Facebook or check out Kickstarter.com you can search and find my 2-minute video which shows and describes SplitZen.com. Or just register as I’ve done here. Thank you and I wish both of you the best. Sincerely, Christopher Wirkkala (Kirkland, WA)
admins. the last post of mine was intended for the “Warning Flag: If He’s a Bad Dad, He’s a Bad Guy” article, not this one. If you can move it there, that would be great, if not, just delete it. Thx XdR
It’s probably not my place to judge, and I’m not sure that I even understand. Your math doesn’t add up. How can he increase his time from 62% to 50%? I assume you meant a change from 60/40 to 50/50 where you give up overnights and he gains them.
So your ex is petitioning to share parenting time 50/50 and is basically asking for that additional day that you have been offering? The only difference (from a distant viewer) is that he wants it to be permaenant (no need to ask permission) and to get credit in the child support calculation (from your perspective) and you don’t want to give up the money or the right to say no(from his perspecitve)? Is there a reason to doubt that he’d actuall take the additional overnight once the change has been made? If not, I’d recommend agreeing to it and move on.
I’ve got sole custody of our kids and am in the process of transitioning their mom off of supervised visitiation (2 DUI’s, one with the kids in the car while were in the process of divorcing). When we started the divorce process, she wanted me to have 3 sunday afternoon’s a month visitation (one home for the kids and I could visit them) and I assumed that we would share overnights and custody 50/50, as equals. She was pretty adamant that I only wanted the time to reduce the child support, which couldn’t be further from the truth. Now of course, the situation is reversed, she gets the kids every other weekend and can visit (as in spend time but not the night) anytime she wants (until now, supervised). It would be easy to throw her own words back at her and say that she wants to get more time to reduce her child support. It true but not the whole story. She doesn’t make much and complains constantly about paying child support when I make 5x what she does. She spent the money she got from the divorce and now basically lives paycheck to paycheck. But I know that she loves our kids as much as I do. I’ve resigned myself that as she proves she’s got her act together, we will increase her overnights, probably until it’s 50/50. There’s always the “give her an inch and she’s take the mile” fear. It’s not like we just met. I know her pretty well. But, that fear is just something that I have to live with. Kids do need both parents and time with them is so important for so many reasons, not all of them obvious or immediate.
If you don’t know my blog, you don’t know what motivates this guy. He’s not your average divorced dad and his motives are always about money and what’s good for him, not the kids.
If you don’t know my blog, you don’t know what motivates this guy. He’s not your average divorced dad. He’s motivated by greed and what’s good for him, not what’s good for the kids.
Hi Pauline, It sounds like a horrible situation. Would you be willing to try SplitZen.com and see if he pays more in child support? I’m sure, from the description in your post, that he probably won’t respond. However, please give it a try. I created the service to empower custodians in your situation. I’m also writing this to ask XdeRubicon to do the same. As a custodial parent who is male, he provides a helpful perspective in the same role but with a different gender. Ms. Gaines and Xde, please register and try it and offer feedback. So far we’re seeing more than an 80% positive response rate from non-custodial parents. I still need the help improving SplitZen.com. If you friend me on Facebook or check out Kickstarter.com you can search and find my 2-minute video which shows and describes SplitZen.com. Or just register as I’ve done here. Thank you and I wish both of you the best. Sincerely, Christopher Wirkkala (Kirkland, WA)
Hi Pauline, It sounds like a horrible situation. Would you be willing to try SplitZen.com and see if he pays more in child support? I’m sure, from the description in your post, that he probably won’t respond. However, please give it a try. I created the service to empower custodians in your situation. I’m also writing this to ask XdeRubicon to do the same. As a custodial parent who is male, he provides a helpful perspective in the same role but with a different gender. Ms. Gaines and Xde, please register and try it and offer feedback. So far we’re seeing more than an 80% positive response rate from non-custodial parents. I still need the help improving SplitZen.com. If you friend me on Facebook or check out Kickstarter.com you can search and find my 2-minute video which shows and describes SplitZen.com. Or just register as I’ve done here. Thank you and I wish both of you the best. Sincerely, Christopher Wirkkala (Kirkland, WA)
Hi Pauline, It sounds like a horrible situation. Would you be willing to try SplitZen.com and see if he pays more in child support? I’m sure, from the description in your post, that he probably won’t respond. However, please give it a try. I created the service to empower custodians in your situation. I’m also writing this to ask XdeRubicon to do the same. As a custodial parent who is male, he provides a helpful perspective in the same role but with a different gender. Ms. Gaines and Xde, please register and try it and offer feedback. So far we’re seeing more than an 80% positive response rate from non-custodial parents. I still need the help improving SplitZen.com. If you friend me on Facebook or check out Kickstarter.com you can search and find my 2-minute video which shows and describes SplitZen.com. Or just register as I’ve done here. Thank you and I wish both of you the best. Sincerely, Christopher Wirkkala (Kirkland, WA)
Hi Pauline, It sounds like a horrible situation. Would you be willing to try SplitZen.com and see if he pays more in child support? I’m sure, from the description in your post, that he probably won’t respond. However, please give it a try. I created the service to empower custodians in your situation. I’m also writing this to ask XdeRubicon to do the same. As a custodial parent who is male, he provides a helpful perspective in the same role but with a different gender. Ms. Gaines and Xde, please register and try it and offer feedback. So far we’re seeing more than an 80% positive response rate from non-custodial parents. I still need the help improving SplitZen.com. If you friend me on Facebook or check out Kickstarter.com you can search and find my 2-minute video which shows and describes SplitZen.com. Or just register as I’ve done here. Thank you and I wish both of you the best. Sincerely, Christopher Wirkkala (Kirkland, WA)
Hi Pauline, It sounds like a horrible situation and I’m sorry. Would you be willing to try SplitZen.com and see if he pays more in child support? SplitZen is a service I launched this year which allows a custodial parent to list specific goods and services the children need in exchange for child support when the non-custodian fulfills your offer. While I understand from the description in your post that he probably won’t respond but would you at least try it? Believe it or not, so far we’re seeing more than an 80% positive response rate from non-custodial parents. As for me, I created the service to help custodians in your situation and to also help get good deals for children of divorced, separated, or single parents. By the way, I’m going to post this same message above to ask XdeRubicon to also register and try SplitZen.com. As a custodial parent who is male, XdeRubicon provides a helpful perspective in the same role but with a different gender. As much as one can be considering the sensitive nature of this difficult topic, his reply comments seemed balanced and objective. My goal is to help the 1 billion parents in our situation (I’m a separated parent myself). And, to be clear, this is no scam or marketing ploy. Please feel free to friend me on Facebook (Christopher Wirkkala) or check out Kickstarter.com and search for my SplitZen project. My next step is making SplitZen mobile for Google, Apple, and Microsoft tablets and phones (it’s internet only right now). Anyway, at either place you can see me and find my 2-minute video which shows and describes SplitZen.com. Preferably, just register like I’ve done for you here. I really need your input at the very least. Okay, thanks in advance and I wish you, XdeRubicon, and all parents (and mostly our children) impacted by divorce, separation, and single parenthood an improved situation for an improved future. Sincerely, Christopher Wirkkala (I’m in the Pacific Northwest 🙂
Hi XdeRubicon, From my comment to Pauline below (spawned from your reply), would you be willing to try SplitZen.com too and see if your ex responds to you positively? To restate, SplitZen.com is a service I launched this year which allows a custodial parent to list specific goods and services the children need in exchange for child support paid when the non-custodian fulfills your offer. There are over 1 billion separated parents raising 1 in 6 children the world over and my goal is to increase the resources the children receive. By the way, I’m still working on getting our mobile version finished so right now users need an internet connection from a browser or a 7-inch or larger tablet (a full-size tablet is better). Lastly, you can find me on Facebook or LinkedIn (Christopher Wirkkala) or twitter (SphereUsCEO) if that’s your preferred social medium. I welcome all thoughtful and objective viewpoints so please feel free to connect. If you’ve reached this point, thank you very much for reading. I wish you and your family the very best. Sincerely, Christopher Wirkkala
All due respect, but you clearly haven’t been following the backstory if you’re posting this reply. The move for additional custody isn’t being made out of love or a desire to spend more time with Franny, it’s for the sole purpose of regaining control of the situation and putting Pauline in her place. In this case, kids do not “need both parents”when one of those parents is a dangerously narcissistic manipulator. There is no “agreeing to it and moving on” in Pauline’s world, again, if you’d read any of the backstory you’d realize and understand that.
(Pauline, I’m sorry if I’m out of turn here, this comment just really bugged me!)
All due respect, but you clearly haven’t been following the backstory if you’re posting this reply. The move for additional custody isn’t being made out of love or a desire to spend more time with Franny, it’s for the sole purpose of regaining control of the situation and putting Pauline in her place. In this case, kids do not “need both parents”when one of those parents is a dangerously narcissistic manipulator. There is no “agreeing to it and moving on” in Pauline’s world, again, if you’d read any of the backstory you’d realize and understand that.
(Pauline, I’m sorry if I’m out of turn here, this comment just really bugged me!)
All due respect, but you clearly haven’t been following the backstory if you’re posting this reply. The move for additional custody isn’t being made out of love or a desire to spend more time with Franny, it’s for the sole purpose of regaining control of the situation and putting Pauline in her place. In this case, kids do not “need both parents”when one of those parents is a dangerously narcissistic manipulator. There is no “agreeing to it and moving on” in Pauline’s world, again, if you’d read any of the backstory you’d realize and understand that.
(Pauline, I’m sorry if I’m out of turn here, this comment just really bugged me!)
All due respect, but you clearly haven’t been following the backstory if you’re posting this reply. The move for additional custody isn’t being made out of love or a desire to spend more time with Franny, it’s for the sole purpose of regaining control of the situation and putting Pauline in her place. In this case, kids do not “need both parents”when one of those parents is a dangerously narcissistic manipulator. There is no “agreeing to it and moving on” in Pauline’s world, again, if you’d read any of the backstory you’d realize and understand that.
(Pauline, I’m sorry if I’m out of turn here, this comment just really bugged me!)
All due respect, but you clearly haven’t been following the backstory if you’re posting this reply. The move for additional custody isn’t being made out of love or a desire to spend more time with Franny, it’s for the sole purpose of regaining control of the situation and putting Pauline in her place. In this case, kids do not “need both parents”when one of those parents is a dangerously narcissistic manipulator. There is no “agreeing to it and moving on” in Pauline’s world, again, if you’d read any of the backstory you’d realize and understand that.
(Pauline, I’m sorry if I’m out of turn here, this comment just really bugged me!)
All due respect, but you clearly haven’t been following the backstory if you’re posting this reply. The move for additional custody isn’t being made out of love or a desire to spend more time with Franny, it’s for the sole purpose of regaining control of the situation and putting Pauline in her place. In this case, kids do not “need both parents”when one of those parents is a dangerously narcissistic manipulator. There is no “agreeing to it and moving on” in Pauline’s world, again, if you’d read any of the backstory you’d realize and understand that.
(Pauline, I’m sorry if I’m out of turn here, this comment just really bugged me!)
All due respect, but you clearly haven’t been following the backstory if you’re posting this reply. The move for additional custody isn’t being made out of love or a desire to spend more time with Franny, it’s for the sole purpose of regaining control of the situation and putting Pauline in her place. In this case, kids do not “need both parents”when one of those parents is a dangerously narcissistic manipulator. There is no “agreeing to it and moving on” in Pauline’s world, again, if you’d read any of the backstory you’d realize and understand that.
(Pauline, I’m sorry if I’m out of turn here, this comment just really bugged me!)
All due respect, but you clearly haven’t been following the backstory if you’re posting this reply. The move for additional custody isn’t being made out of love or a desire to spend more time with Franny, it’s for the sole purpose of regaining control of the situation and putting Pauline in her place. In this case, kids do not “need both parents”when one of those parents is a dangerously narcissistic manipulator. There is no “agreeing to it and moving on” in Pauline’s world, again, if you’d read any of the backstory you’d realize and understand that.
(Pauline, I’m sorry if I’m out of turn here, this comment just really bugged me!)
All due respect, but you clearly haven’t been following the backstory if you’re posting this reply. The move for additional custody isn’t being made out of love or a desire to spend more time with Franny, it’s for the sole purpose of regaining control of the situation and putting Pauline in her place. In this case, kids do not “need both parents”when one of those parents is a dangerously narcissistic manipulator. There is no “agreeing to it and moving on” in Pauline’s world, again, if you’d read any of the backstory you’d realize and understand that.
(Pauline, I’m sorry if I’m out of turn here, this comment just really bugged me!)
All due respect, but you clearly haven’t been following the backstory if you’re posting this reply. The move for additional custody isn’t being made out of love or a desire to spend more time with Franny, it’s for the sole purpose of regaining control of the situation and putting Pauline in her place. In this case, kids do not “need both parents”when one of those parents is a dangerously narcissistic manipulator. There is no “agreeing to it and moving on” in Pauline’s world, again, if you’d read any of the backstory you’d realize and understand that.
(Pauline, I’m sorry if I’m out of turn here, this comment just really bugged me!)
All due respect, but you clearly haven’t been following the backstory if you’re posting this reply. The move for additional custody isn’t being made out of love or a desire to spend more time with Franny, it’s for the sole purpose of regaining control of the situation and putting Pauline in her place. In this case, kids do not “need both parents”when one of those parents is a dangerously narcissistic manipulator. There is no “agreeing to it and moving on” in Pauline’s world, again, if you’d read any of the backstory you’d realize and understand that.
(Pauline, I’m sorry if I’m out of turn here, this comment just really bugged me!)
All due respect, but you clearly haven’t been following the backstory if you’re posting this reply. The move for additional custody isn’t being made out of love or a desire to spend more time with Franny, it’s for the sole purpose of regaining control of the situation and putting Pauline in her place. In this case, kids do not “need both parents”when one of those parents is a dangerously narcissistic manipulator. There is no “agreeing to it and moving on” in Pauline’s world, again, if you’d read any of the backstory you’d realize and understand that.
(Pauline, I’m sorry if I’m out of turn here, this comment just really bugged me!)
All due respect, but you clearly haven’t been following the backstory if you’re posting this reply. The move for additional custody isn’t being made out of love or a desire to spend more time with Franny, it’s for the sole purpose of regaining control of the situation and putting Pauline in her place. In this case, kids do not “need both parents”when one of those parents is a dangerously narcissistic manipulator. There is no “agreeing to it and moving on” in Pauline’s world, again, if you’d read any of the backstory you’d realize and understand that.
(Pauline, I’m sorry if I’m out of turn here, this comment just really bugged me!)
All due respect, but you clearly haven’t been following the backstory if you’re posting this reply. The move for additional custody isn’t being made out of love or a desire to spend more time with Franny, it’s for the sole purpose of regaining control of the situation and putting Pauline in her place. In this case, kids do not “need both parents”when one of those parents is a dangerously narcissistic manipulator. There is no “agreeing to it and moving on” in Pauline’s world, again, if you’d read any of the backstory you’d realize and understand that.
(Pauline, I’m sorry if I’m out of turn here, this comment just really bugged me!)
All due respect, but you clearly haven’t been following the backstory if you’re posting this reply. The move for additional custody isn’t being made out of love or a desire to spend more time with Franny, it’s for the sole purpose of regaining control of the situation and putting Pauline in her place. In this case, kids do not “need both parents”when one of those parents is a dangerously narcissistic manipulator. There is no “agreeing to it and moving on” in Pauline’s world, again, if you’d read any of the backstory you’d realize and understand that.
(Pauline, I’m sorry if I’m out of turn here, this comment just really bugged me!)
All due respect, but you clearly haven’t been following the back-story if you’re posting this reply. The move for additional custody isn’t being made out of love or a desire to spend more time with Franny, it’s for the sole purpose of regaining control of the situation and putting Pauline in her place. In this case, kids do not “need both parents”when one of those parents is a dangerously narcissistic manipulator. There is no “agreeing to it and moving on” in Pauline’s world, again, if you’d read any of the back-story you’d realize and understand that.
(Pauline, I’m sorry if I’m out of turn here, this comment just really bugged me!)
Sorry to bug you Andrea. I started with “It’s probably not my place to judge, and I’m not sure that I even understand.” I’ve since read more of Pauline’s Perils and it is pretty clear that it is a giant mess. I’ll admit that a lot of it still doesn’t make complete sense to me, but I’m not the judge presiding over the case.
My ex is really difficult, but I’m fortunate to be in a position where she can no longer use the kids as a weapon against me. I hope that Pauline gets there too. If not in the courts, then in time. In the interim, I can’t council her to stop fighting to maintain her relationship with her kids, I didn’t.
Hugs. I know exactly how you feel……and Happy early birthday. I found a fabulous substitute for the thin mints, and have gained about 5 lbs alone bc of it. Keep focus on the positive and knowing you have the opportunity to be happy. Prince never will be.
Pauline,
Please refer to your previous post and go from there. Seriously. Hang in there!
Lol…similar scenario! Thought I was in the clear….bam…an appeal.It has been 5 years since the divorce, now he wants to assert himself again. Let it go dude! We are divorced for a reason. Leave our son and me alone! We are happy!
Good luck to you and yours!!!
This just scares me so much. I am in the throws of a horrible custody battle with a NPD angry man. I thought I was smart getting a GAL involved to help show how involved I am in the kids and how very little their father is involved. Her investigation was done she suggested I remain the primary and father to get every Wed and every other weekend, except summer which she suggests is 50/50 (not happy about that at all). But he refuses to respond to my settlement offer with anything but injurous low ball offers. He even turned our Judge assigned to a settlement conference against him. He threatens that he will fight forever until he gets 50/50, and I fear the courts may believe his sappy crappy lies and be charmed by his overwhelming NPD ways. It’s evil what these guys do, just evil. I will pray that the courts take another look at fathers intentions and be wise with seeing the financial drivers that cause the sudden “involved daddy syndrome”.
holy crap, your ex and mine are peas in a pod (minus the neverending piggy bank).
i assure you that in my state, a filing one month after a previous filing would be highly frowned upon. (i hope your attorney asks for fees.) this is frivolous litigation at best, abusive via the legal system at worst. I’m so sorry you have to go through this AGAIN. Rawr.
And i’m so glad you have a wonderful support network!!! i will toast to your birthday and strength the next time i get my hands on an adult beverage. p.s., i think your ex should be called “encirp,” (prince spelled backwards), simply because it sounds like an exotic type of bird poop.
hang in there!
I am still going through a divorce and he is a NCF- Narsisitic Control Freak. He has been prolonging this whole divorce trying to run me out my money. It took my ex 1 year and 6 months to turn in his finantials and HE HAS TAX FRAUD, lol he owns his own business too. so half of that is mine. Meanwhile hes trying to take my kids away from me. He has told me “Not only am i going to take the kids I am going to keep them from seeing you”. Mine has done everything in the book to shove me out the house. I was a stay at home mom of 4.5 years. Meanwhile he would get shit drunk everyday. So TIred of his mental abuse and him bringing up my past and throwing it in my face especially when were not on the subject of the past… he is totally rediclious and manipulative.. i need more support group of ladies in my area seriously. Anyone from naples or bonita springs fl?
Just wondering how you were doing…
I’m okay! Thanks, Krista. No (major) new news, so I’m taking a breath.
I’m okay! Thanks, Krista. No (major) new news, so I’m taking a breath.
I’m okay! Thanks, Krista. No (major) new news, so I’m taking a breath.
Just wanted to say I hope you are doing well. I read your blog from front to back a few weeks ago and you have been on my mind ever since. I promise I’m not a stalker 🙂 Just hope that things are looking up in your world.
This book really helped me: http://www.amazon.com/Fatal-Mistakes-Divorced-Separated-Parents/dp/0615314953/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1310770474&sr=8-1 I hope other families can find tips and advice to make divorce and co-parenting easier. Especially for the kids sake.
I am a man in a sinilar boat as you with an ex who has overtly tried to alienate my children, and has 3 cps reports against her, she abused me and my kids verbally, emotionally and physically for years. My chill is suffering a psychotic break at the thought of spending time alone with her and still the court gives her unsupervised visitation ITs a broken system