Tina Swithin is a high-conflict divorce survivor who shares her hard-won survival skills on the hugely popular Facebook Page One Mom’s Battle and in her just-published book Divorcing a Narcissist — a must-read for anyone who has the misfortune to do that! Check out her Blogger Space below.
I must admit that I was pretty excited when I was asked me to write about my personal “Blogger Space.” On a daily basis, my “blogging brain” is usually consumed with topics like personality disorders and divorce. Being asked to write about my blogging space was a welcomed relief because this is more than just a space where I write—it’s the space that holds my heart.
Before I tell you about my special place, I must give you a bit of the back story. I am 38 years old and this is the first time that I’ve ever had a home. You could say that I’ve spent 38 years being emotionally homeless. I’ve had a roof over my head for all of these years so you can immediately cancel out the mental images of me pushing a shopping cart through town. I’ve had many houses but this is my very first home.
The first 18 years of my life could only be described as severely dysfunctional. In addition to that label, we moved around often so there isn’t a particular house that I would reflect on when pondering my childhood. My last marriage took me into a realm that was new to me: a couple of very fancy houses that were worth well over a million dollars each. These expansive dwellings never felt quite right to me although they did help us to portray the façade of a happy couple that we had painted for the community.
Fast forward through my Category 5 Divorce Hurricane and my houses consisted of tiny apartments that were intended for college students and I even did a stint at my local Women’s Shelter which is a blog in itself. Each of these places shared similarities such as a roof, floor and walls to protect me from the weather. These places lacked one thing: my heart never settled in or thought of these spaces as a “home.” There is a song on the radio called, “My Temporary Home” by Carrie Underwood which chokes me up (literally) each time it comes on:
This is my temporary home It’s not where I belong Windows and rooms That I’m passing through This is just a stop On the way to where I’m going I’m not afraid because I know This is my temporary home
I am proud to say that while it has taken me a while, I finally have a home. It’s a charming little home measuring just 980 square feet but it contains a lot of love and happiness. When I wake up in the morning I have feelings of peace and contentment for the first time in my life. I live in this home with my amazing little girls and a fiancé that has completely restored my faith that good men do exist.
In this little dwelling, I have a window seat which was my absolute dream as a little girl. My favorite blogging spot is the window seat because while I am sitting there I can see our raised, organic vegetable gardens and the beautiful mountains that surround my little town. There is no place that I’d rather be on a rainy day then sitting in the window seat of my home with a cup of coffee and my laptop computer.
I have little interest in any televised sport.
Which brings me to Lance Armstrong.
On warm summer mornings, I am often found blogging just steps away from my window seat on my back patio. My new blogging space contains everything that I’ve yearned for my entire life.
Tina Swithin is the Author of “Divorcing a Narcissist: One Mom’s Battle” and the popular blog, “One Mom’s Battle”. Tina is also a Huffington Post contributor and resides in sunny California with her fiancé, two daughters and three-legged tortoise named, “Oliver.”
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