Anyone who’s ever been unsure about how a guy feels about her can relate – it’s terrifying to have to wonder whether a guy you’re interested in likes you.
Especially if you really like him.
You wind up having to temper your expectations – and hold your feelings for him back – because you don’t know how he feels. And above all, you want to avoid really falling for him – and then discovering later that he doesn’t like you in the same way.
I understand – which is why I want to give you everything you need to figure out whether he likes you or not as quickly as possible.
If a guy likes you:
- He Will Want To Be Around You
- He Will Listen When You Talk To Him
- He Will Treat You Differently Than Other People
- He Will Make The Effort To Spend Time With You (Even If He’s Busy)
- He Will Call And Text You Back
In short – he’s going to want to be around you a lot and make an effort to be around you more.
Makes sense, right? If you like someone – you want to spend more time with them.
When you know these signs he likes you (and even if you don’t), it seems really simple to tell how he feels about you – which is paradoxically the reason that so many women struggle with this issue.
The reason so many women get super anxious and begin to panic when they’re trying to figure out whether a guy likes them… is because they DON’T see these super obvious signs.
A woman who’s beginning to feel anxious about whether a guy likes her or not probably isn’t seeing any of the obvious signs that he likes her – and that’s causing her to feel more and more worried.
So what does she do? She begins to panic – and starts looking for any hint or clue that he likes her – because it’s too painful to face up to the fact that if she’s not seeing the obvious signs he likes her… then he probably doesn’t have strong feelings for her.
This is where most women get into trouble in their relationships.
Why?
Because looking for “hidden signs and clues” that a guy is interested is one of the most unattractive behaviors that a woman can do – and it winds up pushing guys further and further away.
The single most important factor that determines whether a guy is interested in a woman is this – does he feel GOOD around her?
Does he like being around her? Does he feel relaxed, and comfortable, and happy around her? Does he enjoy the time he spends with her?
If the answer is yes – then he’s naturally going to become more interested in her. Guys are simple – they want to keep doing things that feel good and avoid things that feel bad.
So if it feels good to be around her, he’s going to want to be around her more, and he’ll develop feelings for her. If it feels bad to be around her – then he’s going to want to avoid being around her – and it will drive him away.
How does this relate? I’ll get to that in one second.
Now that you know what makes a guy interested, the question becomes: how do you make a guy feel good around you?
And the answer is simple: it’s all about your mood.
Your mood is the most important factor in whether it feels good to be around or whether it doesn’t.
Think about it this way – have you ever been friends with someone who’s in a bad mood all the time? Who’s always complaining about something or other going wrong in their life? Who seems like they always need cheering up and support?
It doesn’t feel good to hang out with that person, does it? I bet you’ve dodged their calls or ignored a text message from them at least once.
The reason why it feels bad to hang out with them is because they’re in a bad mood all the time! Their bad mood is contagious – and it makes you feel down, depressed, and drained after hanging out with them.
Now let’s talk about how this relates to you and the man you’re interested in.
If you’re not sure he likes you – and you’re looking for all these tiny signs and hints and clues that he likes you – what’s your mood like?
I’ll tell you: it’s anxious. It’s not carefree, or relaxed, or happy. It’s worried about how he feels about you – and desperate to find a hint or a clue that he likes you.
That kind of mood is going to leak into everything you do with him – and ruin your interactions with him. Instead of him feeling good around you – like he can be calm, and relaxed, and contented – he’s going to feel like he’s walking on eggshells.
He’s going to be able to feel your anxiety – and it’s going to make him feel anxious and uncomfortable as well.
And like we talked about before – if he feels bad around you, he’s going to avoid being around you. It’s only when he feels good around you that he wants to spend more time with you – and he develops feelings for you.
So if you want him to be interested in you – the best possible thing you can do is STOP obsessing over whether he likes you or not. Stop looking for clues. Stop micro-analyzing his behavior.
Instead, focus all your attention on making your mood as good as possible while you’re with him – and having as good a time as possible with him.
And I’m not talking about faking it either. Your mood can’t be faked – it’s how you truly feel in the privacy of your own mind. If you’re faking it – it won’t work.
But if you make the effort to be in a genuinely good mood with him – it makes a huge difference. He’s going to be able to tell. And he’s going to have a good time with you.
And THAT is the most important factor in getting him interested in you. If you can do that – you’ve got it made.
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Nerves are a killer to mood and enjoyment. I can totally understand that over-thinking about the date before it happens, especially imagining the worst, is a recipe for disaster, or at the very least discomfort and not being your true self. having messed up myself on more than one occasion, I really do appreciate the techniques and advice in this and the other articles – unrequited love for example. Sometimes expecting the worst can make whatever follows seem not so bad, but not if it paralyses you with fear or makes you forget that it is supposed to be enjoyable for both parties!