Let’s face it; giving your man oral sex can be intimidating. They don’t give us lessons in this stuff in school. So there’s a little bit of “am I doing this right?” or “am I good at this?”inside every woman. But have no fear! If you want to rock your man’s world, we have the secrets right here.
1. Slow down the pace:
Too often, we rush oral sex. Whether it be our own nervousness or enthusiasm, we often hurry through the act. This is mistake number one. Men want to savor the act.
How to fix this? Learn to savor making him squirm.
Begin moving slowly. In fact, the act of giving him oral sex begins before your mouth, lips, or tongue touch his penis. Coming very close to his member with your lips or tongue without touching it creates build up and anticipation. Feeling your breath on his most sensitive of flesh is a turn-on. It creates expectancy and excitement.
Work up to actually touching him, but teasingly. Hover over his member, let him feel your breath hot on his skin, and then finally slowly let your mouth (or tongue, or lips) trail over his penis.
Note: if he is not completely erect, don’t worry. That is very normal. In fact, his erection may ebb and flow throughout the course of oral sex.
2. Use your hands:
The more contact, the better. Moving your hands up and down his shaft increases his pleasure, especially if you do so in tandem with using your mouth, lips, or tongue. Your hand around his shaft while your mouth lowers onto the head of his penis will drive him wild.
Some women like to add a twist motion to this act. Others like to squeeze and release as they go up and down.
Using your hands and mouth together can also simulate the sensation of deep throating without inducing your gag reflex. (Plus, if you do go so deeply that you gag, that takes you both out of the moment.) If you place your hand tightly around the base of the penis and move upward, your lips can meet where your fist ends and his entire penis is getting attention.
3. Apply your tongue:
Imagine the penis as an ice cream cone: steady rhythmic licks get him worked up. Another trick?
The underside of the penis, the frenulum, is full of nerves. Both licking directly and flicking the area with the tongue will bring him immense pleasure. Also circling the head of the penis with your tongue is a great technique as well.
4. Add the unexpected:
You can spice things up by adding unexpected sensations. Suck on an ice cube before licking or taking his penis into your mouth creates incredible sensation.
Another trick? Humming while holding him in your mouth produces thrilling vibrations along his shaft. Moaning and making other appreciative noises has the same effect.
Adding some teeth can be a turn-on, too. But be careful! Gently use your teeth along the surface of the shaft, and trail your tongue behind them. But use care because pressing too hard with your teeth will have the opposite effect.
Add a soft pull on his testicles as he nearly finishes will send him over the edge with pleasure. This area is super-packed with nerve endings and the skin is very thin. So light touches produce big results.
Use what you’ve got. Wear your hair long? Let it trail over his body onto his penis. Think of it as a feather tickler that grows right out of your head.
Place your breasts on either side of his shaft and move up and down. Is there really any need to explain why he will like this? The visual alone will send him reeling.
5. Show him the excitement:
The biggest tip we can give you? Show your enthusiasm. Nothing turns anyone on like being wanted by someone else. Think about how knowing how badly he wants you makes you feel? Well, it’s the same for him. If he feels like you really want to perform oral sex on him, he’s going to enjoy it more.
Enthusiasm trumps just about every skill and trick out there. Feeling your partner’s excitement makes you even more excited. Showing your excitement and passion for your partner is the best foreplay ever. And during the act, it can put your man over the edge as well.
Being great at oral sex is something every woman can achieve. Follow these tips to up your game and blow your man’s mind. But use these tips with caution. Once he sees what you can do, he will never want to be with anyone else!
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